Friday, February 21, 2014

Not by Chance

     Last summer, while we drove to Iowa for my sister Sherry's wedding and in the wee morning hours of our first two days at Dad and Mom's place, I wrote an essay in response to this contest guideline:  Demonstrate from your own life that the Heidelberg Catechism is a warm and personal confession.  Some of you have since asked to read what I wrote, and I likely responded that it would be published in the Standard Bearer.  Perhaps that is still the intention of the editors of the SB, though my essay is rather lengthy and contains some passages that are difficult to read - particularly the dialogue sections in which I attempt to mimic a heavy accent.  Anyway, it's included in it's entirety below.  Consider yourself forewarned: it is long, and there are parts that must be read slowly.  It's hard to even skim something that you wrote months before without changing anything; I edited a few words and removed a couple of commas but resisted the temptation to alter the essay further.  Sarah  


How the boy had come to live with the gypsies was not clear.  They insisted that they had discovered him as an infant, abandoned, wrapped in a blanket with a card on which was penciled only his name.  Finnish government officials doubted their account.  The gypsies’ Russian accent and dubious reputation made them the bane of Finland’s city streets.  On the other hand, the lad’s blonde-hair and blue eyes made him an unassuming thief and profitable peddler of their wares.  The eight-year old was seized and placed in a children’s home. 
            In the orphanage the boy proved himself to be exceptionally bright.  In 1987 a smartly-dressed American arrived at the children’s home.  He sought an intelligent young man who could speak Russian and had absolutely no family ties whatsoever.  The boy was removed from the orphanage and began training to become a member of the Special Operations Forces of the United States Government.  Four years later, at age 20, he signed his first contract.  His initial salary was set at $12,000 per month.  He was ordered to move to the Ural Mountains, assume the life of an ordinary citizen, and wait for the wheezing Soviet Union to collapse.  Six months later, it did.  The gypsies’ former pawn became a pawn of the U.S. government, one of their killer elite.
            Some years later, while on a mission, the Special Ops agent stepped on a mine that threw him 20 feet and slammed him headfirst into a concrete wall.  The accident resulted in hemiparesis, and at age 38 he retired.  Shortly thereafter, while wandering at a classic car auction in Florida, he met a young woman who had emigrated to the U.S. from Cuba with her devoutly Roman Catholic family.  The two married and relocated to Denver, Colorado.  An acquaintance of the Finnish lad, who was also a former member of the Special Ops, had requested his help with a floundering door-to-door windows and siding business there. 
            And so it happened that the Finnish orphan came to our front door.  He came not by chance.

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            Some might not believe me if I were to tell them that when I turned 30 I’d never had a conversation of length with a person who believed that God doesn’t exist.  Those people are likely not familiar with my unremarkable life, nor with Northwest Iowa, where I was born and lived until a year ago, when my husband accepted a teaching position at the Protestant Reformed Christian School in Loveland, Colorado. 
Around 500 people – give or take a hundred – live in Doon, the town near which I grew up.  There are four churches in the community.  Three of those churches bear the name “Reformed.”  The fourth is a Congregationalist church, which, among other horrors, once had a female pastor.  That church was small, and I would have forgotten about it all together had it not been located directly across the street from the library.  And as a matter of fact, the only person I knew who was a member there was the town librarian, a sweet, elderly widow whose dyed brown hair was fixed in a permanent beehive.
            Yet already as a child I felt that we “Prots” were distinct.  Or perhaps I felt that way because I was a farm kid, small and not athletic.  Either way, I never felt at home on the little league team.  I went to the “north Prot” school, not the “south Christian” school.  I wasn’t a member of the Calvinettes, which met on Tuesday evenings in the Reformed Church.  One of my classmates was, though, and on Wednesday mornings she would bring to school crafts and tales of making ice cream by kicking a can down the street and other similarly fabulous things.  I dreaded walking down Main Street Saturday mornings after catechism.  The trip to Vince’s Foods for a Laffy-Taffy meant passing all the other kids who’d spent the morning shooting hoops in the park.
I remember one sermon that I heard as a child that made me consider in a small way what it was that set our church apart.  That sermon was preached by my childhood pastor, the now Prof. Russell Dykstra.  It commenced yet another go-through of the Heidelberg Catechism, and in it Rev. Dykstra asserted that preaching the Heidelberg Catechism, a practice that had been abandoned by many Reformed churches, assured that we followed the old paths of the Scriptures and saints gone before.  The sermon must have made an impression on my parents as well – a cassette copy of it still sits in a dusty case in a cabinet in their kitchen. 
            Enter high school.  On my first day at Western Christian my Bible teacher presented our class with a blank check.  The check covered the bulletin board.  It was made out to “Me” by the “Almighty God” in the amount of “salvation.”  All it awaited was my signature.  And so I assumed the role of one who “didn’t.”  Didn’t sign the check.  Didn’t go to movies.  Didn’t do the drill team or the homecoming dance.  Didn’t do Chamber Singers – they sang in the worship services of area Reformed and Christian Reformed churches on Sunday evenings.  Didn’t.  Didn’t.  Didn’t.
I was a “good girl.”  For the most part I didn’t do what I wasn’t supposed to do.  But all those “don’ts” made it more and more difficult for me to view the Protestant Reformed Churches in a positive light.  Our Thursday night Heidelberg Catechism class was just one more thing on a schedule littered with homework assignments, cross-country and track meets, and two work schedules.  I believed the Word that I heard each Sunday.  I knew Jesus Christ to be my only comfort.  But for me, riding to catechism in my sister’s Taurus, memorizing the Catechism took the backseat – literally and figuratively.
            I made confession of faith shortly before making a big twenty-minute move to college.  The circumstances of my confession made my membership in the PRC a matter of even more serious consideration than usual, I think.  Four out of the five in my class met with the elders that evening.  One confession was not accepted, and that was confession of my childhood friend, the Calvinette.  As we nervously reviewed our essentials near the back door of church, she had wondered if what she planned to say would pass the elders’ careful scrutiny. She intended to confess her faith in Jesus, she said, but, if asked, she said she would share her intentions of eventually joining the CRC.  Following the events of that evening, not only my friend, but her parents and younger sister also left our church.  The pews felt especially empty on the day that the remaining three of us publically professed that we believed the truths of Scripture as taught here in this Christian church.   
It was at Dordt College that I was confronted for the first time with the idea that one should have no creed but the Bible.  This vibe came not only from the group who walked around campus barefoot year-round and lingered late in the lobby discussing the ramifications of using Styrofoam and how best to redeem the theatre, but also from some of the professors and a few of the serious, more spiritually-minded of my acquaintances.  I had difficulty answering why we preached the Heidelberg Catechism.  After all, we acknowledged that the creeds were not inspired, not infallible.  How then could we preach sermons using the Heidelberg Catechism as our text? 
            Remnants of this doubt lingered even when I left college, married, and became a mother.  But they were nearly obliterated at a funeral that my husband and I attended several years ago.  A baby girl whom we loved died while still in her mother’s womb.  On her funeral leaflet, her parents had printed the beautiful, familiar first question and answer of the Heidelberg Catechism.

            Q. 1.  What is thy only comfort in life and in death?
A.  That I with body and soul, both in life and in death, am not my own, but belong unto my faithful Savior, Jesus Christ; who, with his precious blood, hath fully satisfied for all my sins, and delivered me from all the power of the devil; and so preserves me that without the will of my heavenly Father, not a hair can fall from my head; yea, that all things must be subservient to my salvation, and therefore, by his Holy Spirit, he also assures me of eternal life, and makes me sincerely willing and ready, henceforth, to live unto him. 

The man who officiated at the funeral service, a pastor of a “ministry of the Christian Reformed Denomination,” acknowledged Lord’s Day 1 with the leaflet in his hand.  But in his message he asserted that the devil, not God, is the one responsible for evils like stillbirth.  Our comfort?  God is powerful enough to make good come out of bad situations. 
I sat numb with shock, my arms wrapped around my own pregnant belly.  At a vulnerable moment I had been confronted by one who outwardly subscribed to the creeds, though his theology blatantly denied the doctrines they so clearly set forth.  Not only was I astounded by what I heard, I was all the more grief-stricken for the young parents who clung to one another in the front pew.  As I considered the minister’s meditation during our lengthy drive back home, I was struck by the realization that I was angry not because I felt the creed had been violated, but because I realized that God Himself had been violated.
And yet, perhaps Northwest Iowa, with its plethora of at least nominally Reformed Churches, was too gray a place for me to grow like I should.  Perhaps that is one reason the Lord led us west, across the flatlands of Nebraska to the foothills of the Rockies.  To the red brick ranch house on Birch Drive in Loveland, Colorado.

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            “Nope.  Never heard of the CRC.”
“What about the Reformed Church?”  Nope, not that, either.
“The Protestant Reformation?”
Wade purses his lips and offers B.J. another bored, “Nope.”
It is new to us, this whole business of having neighbors.  Wade lives across the street, usually by himself, sometimes with his daughter and her son and her boyfriend, when he shows up.  Then there is Paula, with her wide-brimmed straw hat and fashionable Chihuahua, Taco.  She hobbles to our house, all smiles, with bags of fresh peaches, sunscreen, fabric scraps, homemade egg rolls, stories of what is was like to live through World War II in Thailand…anything that might seem a worthy excuse to get near our children.
“Love children.  Love your bootiful children,” that’s her mantra.  She’s proud of her and her husband Joe’s church wedding, pleased to share that they sent their three children to a Roman Catholic school.
“I not go no more,” she says, when I ask her if she drives herself to church.  “I learn dat de priest hurt all de children, and I say, ‘Why he need my money?’ and I not go.”  She dismisses the church with an irritated wave of her wrinkled hand. 
There are Tommy and his Filipino wife, who rarely leave the house.  There are Chris and Kayla and their two little boys, who are as used to us storming the van on Sunday mornings at 9:00, dressed in our suits and skirts, as we are used to them working in the yard in their sweats on the Lord’s Day.  And then there are Kurt and Angie, with their seven well-behaved children and their eagerness to discuss the Bible over the back fence.  They attend a “gathering” that confesses one “creed”:  WE LOVE JESUS.

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            My husband groans as he hangs up the phone and returns to the dining room table, where we are finishing supper.  Lentil and rice tacos with all the fixings.  I spoon the last of a mashed avocado into baby Eli’s mouth.
            “The window guy.  Says he’s stuck in traffic by Denver and won’t make it here until around 6:00.”  B.J. gulps down his milk and reaches for his Bible from the shelf above Willem and Leah’s heads.  “He sounds foreign.  Said his name is Marko.”
            I am loading the last of the dishes into the dishwasher when the doorbell rings.  I’m also fuming.  How did we get ourselves into this situation?  We’ve made similar mistakes before...you’d think we’d learn our lesson.
 I recalled the telephone call I’d received shortly after Willem was born.  The man on the other end was suspiciously aware that we had a new baby.  He wanted to come to our home to talk to us about fire safety.  In answer to his prodding about how we heated the house, I divulged the information that my husband was revamping a wood burning stove.  He became more insistent, and I agreed that he could come, provided B.J. was home when he did.  He came.  The evening began with the thorough, measured paging of a four-inch wide binder that contained newspaper clippings about house fires in Iowa – so many of them that the clippings must have dated back to around the time newspapers were invented.  It climaxed with the man offering us a system of fire alarms that he assured us would ensure the dilapidated home that we rented from fire…to the tune of $2300.  It ended with him, red-faced and sputtering something about driving an hour and a half one way for “this waste of my time,” slamming the door, and stomping his way down our crooked front steps.
            The other time we’d fallen for such a ploy was shortly after we’d arrived here in Colorado.  When my husband announced that someone would be coming to talk to us about installing a reduced-rate home security system, I made careful plans to be at the grocery store at that exact hour.
Now here I am, forcing a smile and shaking hands with a square-shouldered, blonde-haired, blue-eyed man.  He stoops to retrieve his brief case from the floor, then gestures toward where our five children are playing in the living room and smiles, shaking his head.
            “Wow.  Uh…dis something you…uh… don’t see very often.  Wow.” The man named Marko does have an accent.  His speaks through a clenched jaw, his words halting and punctuated with pauses and throaty “uhs.”
“These…uh…all yours?”  B.J.’s eyes meet mine. How many times had we been asked this question since moving here? 
“Yep.  All ours.”  My husband, always at ease with himself socially, leads Marko to the table, which is still damp from being swiped after supper.  Marko moves stiffly, swinging his left leg out as walks.
There are the customary polite exchanges.  Remarks about the weather.  Marko, we learn, has a wife and two young children.  He learns that B.J. is a teacher and that I stay home with the children, then litters the table with brochures and a big binder.  Just as he’s about to begin his presentation on energy-efficient windows, Willem appears, wearing his Wildcats t-shirt.  Nathan, he claims, has stolen his LEGO plane. 
“Loveland P.R. Christian School,” Marko reads the navy letters on Will’s t-shirt.
“That’s where I teach,” B.J. interjects.
“Uh…Christian school?”
“Yep.”
“P.R.?” Marko queries.
“Protestant Reformed.”
“Uh…Protestant.  My wife be Catholic.  So…Protestant.”
“Yep.  Are you familiar at all with the Protestant Reformation?”  (B.J. learned with Wade that it was better to start a ways back.)
“No, no.”  Marko shakes his head and makes some marks with his pen on the paper in front of him.  “I not Christian.”  He rolls his eyes.  “My wife, she read to me da Bible when I go to bed.  Efery night.  And…uh…listen because…uh…I have to…you know.  To make da wife happy.”  The rest of our children have gathered around the table, all eyes.  Who is this man?  He talks even funnier than Paula does.  Nathan taxis the LEGO plane along the table.  B.J. shoos them to the living room. 
“Leah, go read your siblings a book.”  They vacate.
“You lif here long?” Marko queries.
“No, no, not long.  Less than a year.”  Marko grunts and nods. 
“I not lif here long, either.  Fife years?  I used to work for U.S. government.”
B.J. starts.  “Really?”
“Ya.  I not…uh…sell windows because I haf to you…you know.  It…uh…something to do.  So I not get bored.”  Marko glances out the window and waves a hand toward our small, wire-fenced yard.  “You haf much land here.”  Much land?  I reel inwardly.  We’re surrounded by houses on all sides!  What would he have said about our home in Iowa?
“In Finland, where I from, we not waste land.  We make the land to be useful.”
“Finland.  OK.  I was trying to place the accent,” says B.J. 
“Ya.  I haf accent.  English da fourth language.”
B.J. twitches again.  “Ya,” Marko affirms.  “There is Russian, Finnish, German, den English.”
“Wow.  So what brought you here from Finland?” my husband asks.
“Well…”  Marko pauses.  When he speaks, spit gathers at the corners of his mouth.  Now he pulls in a breath through tight lips, garnering all the saliva in the back of his mouth.  He offers a wan smile.  “Long story.”

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It is well past the children’s bedtime when Marko shows them the scar in his left shoulder.  He reaches back and grips the shoulder with his good hand.
“Back here, da bullet come out.  Leave much bigger scar, with…uh…rays.  Like da sun.”
I lead them, wide-eyed, to bed.  Hear their prayers.  Tuck them in.  When I return to the table, Marko’s moved from his life story to ruminating about the weekly mass he attends with his wife.  My eyes are starting to get heavy, and we have yet to discuss windows.
“I hear da priest…uh…talk about hell.  Scare me.”  He grips his forearms and feigns a shudder.   “I think, how do da people listen to dis?”
“Well…” B.J. inserts.
“You belief dat?  What da priest say about hell?”
“Yes.  We do.”
“So…uh…God make you not able to keep da law and kill you because you don’t?”  B.J. offers a hesitant nod.  Marko forces a breath through his lips and shakes his head.
“Dat God a dictator.  I not serf dictator!  If what da priest say be true, I will…uh…burn…forever.  You…uh…not know all I do.  I kill many people.”
“I understand that,” B.J. responds.  “But my wife and I believe that we are as guilty before God as you are.”  I nod.
“Jesus taught that hatred is murder.  That lust is adultery.”
Marko raises an eyebrow, incredulous. 
“You belief that hate be the same as killing?”
“Well…yes.  We believe that both break the sixth commandment.”
“Uh.  I don’t hate.  I never hate no person.  I…uh…kill them.  For da job, you know.”

Q.106.  But this commandment seems only to speak of murder?
A.  In forbidding murder, God teaches us that He abhors the causes thereof, such as envy, hatred, anger, and desire of revenge; and that He accounts all these as murder.
                                      
There’s a long, silent pause.  “Why,” I break the silence, “Why, if you believe that God does not exist, does the thought of hell ‘scare’ you?”
“Well…uh…I do not mean scared.”  Marko casts a wry face, then continues.  “It hard for me to sit there, to listen to da nonsense with all da people who do not use deir brains.  I need much wine, you know,” he grins, “to sit dere.”  “Tree-tousand years ago, if a person be sick, or…a big storm come.  De farmer’s field destroyed.  What do da people say did dat?”  He looks at B.J. and repeats, “What do dey say?”
“God,”  B.J. replies hesitantly.
“Ya.  God.  Now, we have da science to know how da body work.  What make da disease.  How da storms work.  And all dese people, dey do not use deir brains!  We have da science, and dey still say, “Ah…it twas God.”  Marko folds his arms, sits back in his chair, raises an eyebrow as he looks at my husband.  “I belief dat Jesus lived.  I belief dat he was good man.  And den dere were de other men, and dey haf big brains for dere day.  And dey know this, that humans will ex-ter-min-ate demselves.  So dey tink.  And dey invent de religions, de commandments, so dat de people do not exterminate demselves.  Dat is why.  Dat is why we have da religions.  All da religions.  Dere were some smart men.”  Marko taps his temple and nods.    
There is something about this man that intrigues me, and something about him that terrifies me.  I stand up.  “Would you like some tea?”
“No, no.  Eat one time a day.  Stay healthy dat way.  And fast.  Fast for 10 days, tree times a year.  Stay healthy dat way.”
I stare at him from the stove.  “Ten days at time!” I exclaim.
“Ya.  Tree times in my life I haf fasted for tirty days.  And I do not jus sit, either.  I run.  I run eferyday.  Drink only distilled water.”  He looks at me.  “To…uh…show myself, I haf a big brain.  My brain is bigger and stronger dan de hunger.”
  The kettle whistles.  I pour the steaming water over the strainer and wrap both my hands around the mug as I make my way back to my seat.
“Didn’t you ever wonder, say, as a child, ‘Why am I here?  What is the purpose of my life?’”   Marko answers emphatically before the final words make their way out of my mouth.
“No, no!  Dey teach us in da school – at da orphanage – how da world evolve.  In Finland, da people do not talk about God.  And dey are always happy.  Eferyone is happy!  Dey work four days a week, six hour.  And dey are rich!  Da schools are good.  Da magazines in da United States, dey say Finland is da best country in da world.  Happiest country in da world.” 

Q. 2.  How many things are necessary for thee to know, that thou, enjoying this comfort, mayest live and die happily?
A. Three; the first, how great my sins and miseries are; the second, how I may be delivered from all my sins and miseries; the third, how I shall express my gratitude to God for such deliverance.

Marko continues as I process what he has just said.  “Da Christians are so proud.  Dey do not understand da universe…uh…how big it is.”  His right hand trails in an arc over his head.  “Dey think dis world revolve around dem.  Dey tink dat dere God cares about dem.  Who dey sleep wif.  Where dey go.  Dey haf the people who tell dem, ‘when you die, da party starts.’  Dat is the other purpose of da religions…uh…you know?”
B.J. and I look at him quizzically.
“So dat da people will not be scared to die.  I haf seen so many people, dey are jus about to die.  Dey are da same as da animals.  Dey haf terror.  Da people wif da big brains, tree-thousand years ago, dey see dat, too.  And dey tink, ‘We will help da people.  We will tell dem, ‘when you die, da party starts.”  He smirks at us.  “All da religions, dey say da same.  Dat is why we haf so many men in de military, dey come home, and dey are sad, and dey kill dere selves.  Dey are quick to do dat because dey think,” Marko drills the table with his forefinger as he finishes, “Now da party will start.  But I know dat I haf one life.  And I will fight,” he growls and rakes the table with his fingernails as he speaks, “I will fight for efery moment.”

Q. 42.  Since then Christ died for us, why must we also die?
A.  Our death is not a satisfaction for our sins, but only an abolishing of sin, and a passage into eternal life.

My husband is rarely as silent as he has been this evening.  He’s been sitting with his hands on the table, chin on hands, taking in this man’s story and his case against the faith.  I long for him to say something now, and he does.  Marko interjects as soon as he begins, but B.J. raises his hand and continues. 
“You’ve lived a remarkable life.  You have.  I cannot even imagine going through half of what you’ve gone through.  I really can’t.  And you know, there is nothing that I can say to you that would convince you to believe what I believe about God – that He is sovereign, and the Creator – and the Bible, that it’s infallible…about Jesus, that He’s the Savior.  There is nothing I can say.  There isn’t.  You are a brilliant man.  I can see that.  You obviously thought all these things through…logically.  But we,” he points toward me, then himself, “We believe these things by faith.”
“Faith,” Marko nods skeptically.
“That’s right.  Faith.  And that faith is a gift from God.”

Q. 60.  How are thou righteous before God?
A.  Only by a true faith in Jesus Christ; so that, though my conscience accuse me, that I have grossly transgressed all the commandments of God, and kept none of them, and am still inclined to all evil; notwithstanding, God, without any merit of mine, but only of mere grace, grants and imputes to me, the perfect satisfaction, righteousness and holiness of Christ;  even so, as if I never had had, nor committed any sin: yea, as if I had fully accomplished all that obedience which Christ has accomplished for me; inasmuch as I embrace such benefit with a believing heart.

“Uh…gift?”  Marko shakes his head.  “I don’t have dat gift.”
“Oh, don’t be so sure,” B.J. responds.  Marko glances warily at him.  “Do you believe in chance?”
“Ya…uh…chance.  Maybe,” Marko offers a half-hearted nod.  “I belief in my big brain.  I use my brain to come here, to Colorado.  I tink, ‘Where is nice place to lif?  No hurricane?  No tornado?  No earthquake?’ and I like ski.  And Peter call me.  Not chance.” Now he shakes his head “no.”  “My big brain.”
“We don’t – believe in chance, I mean.”  B.J. straightens.  He’s entering his “teacher” mode, I can tell. “We believe in providence.  Think about all of the things you’ve been through, Marko.  Some amazing things.  You’ve been shot, you survived a mine blast...your experiences even as a child!  And now you live a fairly normal life.   God has given you a wife who’s a Christian – granted, we are Protestants and we believe that the Roman Catholic Church holds to some serious errors [The mass, at bottom, is nothing else than a denial of the one sacrifice and sufferings of Jesus Christ and an accursed idolatry.].  But that wife reads to you from the Scriptures every night.  And now you’re here, and you’re supposed to be selling us windows, but you’ve just spent nearly 5 hours attempting to justify your lack of faith in God instead.  My wife and I, we believe that those things happen not by chance, but by the hand of God.”

 Q.27.  What dost thou mean by the providence of God?
A.  The almighty and everywhere present power of God; whereby, as it were by his hand, he upholds and governs heaven, earth, and all creatures; so that herbs and grass, rain and drought, fruitful and barren years, meat and drink, health and sickness, riches and poverty, yea, and all things come, not by chance, but by his fatherly hand.

            Baby Eli wails from his crib in the room at the end of the hall.  I get up from the table and go to him.  He reaches for me, and I pick him up and bury my face in the soft skin below his ear.  B.J. and Marko’s voices carry on in the kitchen.
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            Attention writers that love the Heidelberg Catechism.  The announcement in the bulletin comes the Sunday following our visit with Marko.  It opens for me the questions with which I’ve always wrestled.  Do I love the Heidelberg Cathechism?  Is it to me a warm and personal confession?  It always seemed to me that the more the ministers in our churches lauded the creeds and confessions, the more distant they seemed to me.  When I heard, “Creeds and confessions,” I felt as though I had just stepped into a cathedral with elaborate arches and an ornate ceiling.  As if I’d entered a beautiful place, but a formal one.  A place cool, and damp.  High above and removed from me. 
My search for the answer to my questions leads me the stash below our basement steps.  There I dig through the Rubbermaid tote that Mom sent with me when I married.  I rummage through the manila envelopes, on each of which Mom had written a date in permanent marker.  I look through 1992, the year my grandma and great grandma died.  Maybe the first Lord’s Day was printed on their funeral leaflets as well?  No.  Grandma’s – Psalm 27.  Great-grandma’s – Psalm 42:1, in Dutch, and the 23rd Psalm.  What about 1997, the year that Grandpa died?  Perhaps on his leaflet?  No.  Just an inadequate obituary.
But what is this?  From that same year, a crinkled sheet of notebook paper.  A single paragraph written in blue ink…in my hand-writing.    
           
            I am writing this paragraph as punishment for having a big mouth.  I talked back to my parents following an argument and lost control of my temper.  God tells us in His Word that we must honor our parents; I was directly disobeying this commandment.  In the future I hope to prevent this from happening again by consciously holding before me the truth that I am a child of the God who created and saved me and that I must show my gratitude to Him by living in obedience to His laws to the utmost of my ability.

“What dismays me when I read this,” I wave the paragraph at my husband, “is that if I had to write that paragraph today, it would sound exactly the same.  Where is my progress in the living the Christian life?”

Q. 115.  Why will God then have the ten commandments so strictly preached, since no man in this life can keep them?
A.  First, that all our lifetime we may learn more and more to know our sinful nature, and thus become the more earnest in seeking the remission of sin and righteousness in Christ; likewise, that we constantly endeavor, and pray to God for the grace of the Holy Spirit, that we may become more and more conformable to the image of God, till we arrive at the perfection proposed to us in a life to come. 

But what comforts me when I read it is that I see the Heidelberg catechism written there.  I see my misery expressed.  My deliverance acknowledged.  And recognition of my calling to live a life of thankfulness to God.  The progress, perhaps, lies in the realization that I no longer struggle with the same sins.  Oh, sin is there, still to be fought, but it’s assumed a different, more seasoned form.  And, I think, the progress lies in the realization that what I was taught as a child had taken hold, already at 13, and – what joy! – continues to sink deeper even now. 
Rev. Smit, the pastor who taught me the Heidelberg Catechism as a teen, recently visited Loveland while on furlough from his missionary work in the Philippines.  “How do you answer those who contend that the Christian needs no creed but the Bible?” I ask him.
“Like this,” he responds, sitting upright on the loveseat.  “You hand them a piece of paper and a pen. And you say, ‘You’ve told me that you believe what the Bible teaches.  Could you write out for me a summary of the basic truths that you believe the Scriptures set forth?  They write it out and return it to you.  And there you have it.  That’s their creed.”
I have a creed.  It is a warm and personal creed.  It acknowledges my misery and my sin.  It sets forth my need for salvation.  It leads not only others, but me also, to the only Savior.  It does so very logically.  And then it directs me to serve this God – not a dictator, but a Father – with even my smallest inclinations and thoughts. 
It’s a creed that’s been tried and proven true.  It links me to saints who have gone before and to saints still fighting the fight of faith.  It is the mortar that joins the living stones of the cathedral of the God who governs heaven and earth.

.           .           .           .           .

            “You’ve lived in Finland?” I stare at Grace’s pale, freckled face, incredulous.  She and her husband, Richard, have just moved to Colorado from Great Britain.  We are visiting with them on our patio after eating Sunday dinner.
            “Yes,” she says, smiling at me.  I lean back in my seat.
            “Tell me what it’s like,” I say.  She tells me that Finland is a beautiful country, dotted with woods and lakes.  That the churches are Lutheran churches, ancient stone structures, and that they are empty. 
            “A man once told me that Finns are the happiest people in the world,” I say.  It is her turn to look surprised.
            “I wouldn’t say that at all,” she responds.  “Finns to me seemed to be very reserved…very distrustful of other people.”  She pauses.  “The country is so far north that in the winter there are several weeks when one doesn’t see the sun.  It seemed to me as if the only way they could tolerate the darkness was by drinking a lot of wine.”  She says this with a laugh and glances toward where our children are jumping on the trampoline. 
            Two year old Nathan bounces beneath the intense mid-day sun, all smiles.  His eyes sparkle, his face shines, and when he leaps into the air, his pin-straight blonde hairs fly out from his head like rays from the sun.  A child of light.

.           .           .           .           .

            In the end, the window we got from Marko was not the material kind.  Instead we got a peek into the unremarkable life of a man who lives without comfort.  Into the mind of a man not delivered from the power of the devil.  A pawn of sin.  In contrast, I am bound to creeds that set forth the wonder that all things in my life come to me not by chance, but by the hand of the Almighty God, my Father.
            “Dis has been memorable.” Marko reaches for B.J.’s hand.
            “It has,” my husband agrees, opening the door.  The clock on wall strikes 1 AM, and I pull the Lord’s Prayer afghan – a Christmas gift from Paula – up and around my shoulders.  Marko shifts his briefcase from his left arm to his right.  From his bad arm to the good. 
            “I will…uh… never forget dis.”
            “Nor will we,” I say.
            “Good-night.”
            “Good-night,” B.J. and I reply in unison.
            As Marko exits we shut off the lights and stand together by the living room window.  Marko climbs into his car and fumbles for his cell phone.
            “He said he’s going to call his wife,” B.J. said.  “C’m on.  Let’s head for bed.”
And so we do.  I settle down on the pillow and cuddle close to my husband.  The taillights of the Finnish orphan round the bend and disappear out of sight.

Wednesday, February 19, 2014

A Few from the Zoo

Since B.J., Leah, and Willem had off from school, we spent President’s Day – a mostly-sunny, 65-degree day! – at the Denver Zoo.  (Thanks to B.J.’s Mom and Alex and Amy for the family pass.  :-)  B.J. and I agreed that Denver Zoo isn’t as impressive as Omaha’s Henry Doorly Zoo, nor does it offer the spectacular layout of Colorado Springs’ Cheyenne Mountain Zoo, but we did see some of the biggest, healthiest-looking wild animals there that we have ever seen.  We’re looking forward to visiting again in the spring/summer when things are greener and prettier.  What an enjoyable day!

Yaks.

Cheetahs.

Nathan's favorite, the bighorn sheep.

Grizzly.

Peacock.

Will's favorite, the gorilla.

The kids...no, Nath didn't want to take a picture, and yes, Eli would rather be on the run.

I forget what kind of monkey this is - he was just posing so nicely I couldn't resist.

Macaws.

Penguins.

Rhino.

Don't remember what kind of monkey this is, either, but he sure was fun to watch as he crossed above the sidewalk time and again on his rope.

This was the biggest, most impressive elephant I have ever seen.

Giraffes.

I stayed outside of the Tropical Discovery Building because Eli was snoozing in the stroller, and strollers aren't allowed inside the building.  While I was waiting I got to see Lucy the sea lion perform - pretty neat show!

Tuesday, February 18, 2014

Crazy Week

Last week was our school's annual Crazy Week.
Cowboy and Indian day.
(Leah made her Indian bead necklace herself - it took her almost all day Saturday!)
Occupation Day (I forgot to take this photo 'til they got home.)
Leah's a mom, Will's an "army guy" (again).
 
Crazy Hair/Clash Day.
(When I was helping Leah with her hair, I told her, "When I was your age,
everyone did their bangs like this."  "What do you mean?" she asked, "for Crazy Hair Day?"  "Nope.  All the time, everyday," I said.  She and Will thought that was pretty crazy!)
   
Old Fashioned Day.
(I forgot to take a photo on Red +White (Valentine's Day) but they looked fairly normal...and we were running late.)
Sometimes crazy at school...always crazy at home.  ;-)


Learning our letters!

Coloring.



Painting.


Making Valentines.

One for Cousin Kara.

A whole school of Valentine's!

One for Auntie Anna.

Our Valentine's Supper

Saturday, February 15, 2014

Duty...or Delight?

A couple of weeks ago I listened to a speech by Pastor John Piper on C.S. Lewis.  Piper read two quotes from Lewis that especially stuck me.  The first was this:

A perfect man would never act from a sense of duty; he’d always want the right thing more than the wrong one. Duty is only a substitute for love – of God and of other people – like a crutch, which is a substitute for a leg.

Is it not enough that we are often driven to do things out of a sense of duty?  The Bible teaches that it is not.  We read in Isaiah of God’s abhorrence of Israel’s sacrifices: “This people draw near Me with their mouth, and with their lips do honor Me, but have removed their heart far from Me” (Is. 29:13).  Jesus quotes the same verse in reference to the scribes and Pharisees, who so strictly observed God’s law on the outside, but were “within full of dead men’s bones” (Matt. 23:27).   “Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter,” writes the wise preacher in Ecc. 12:13, “Fear God, and keep His commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.”  Did you catch the first thing that is our “duty”?  “Fear God.”  Several weeks ago in our ladies’ Bible study we defined “the fear of the Lord” as a reverence for God rooted in such deep love for Him that we do not want to do anything that might offend Him.  When one fears the Lord, the two parts of the “duty” of which Solomon writes become one.  Ps. 1:2a: “But his delight is in the law of the Lord.”  Ps. 112:1b:  “Blessed is the man that feareth the Lord, that delighteth greatly in His commandments.”   This is the “true conversion” explained in the Heidelberg Catechism, Lord’s Day 33: “Sincere sorrow of heart that we have provoked God by our sins, and more and more to hate and flee from them,” and “sincere joy of heart in God, through Christ, and with love and delight to live according to the will of God in all good works.”  Good works are never performed out of a sense of duty: they are only ever driven…by delight.

And yet, there’s a conflict, isn’t there?  Paul addresses it in Rom. 7:22-23:  “For I delight in the law of God after the inward man: but I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members.”  We know that as long as we remain on this earth, the legs of our spiritual new man are not what they will one day be.  Too often we must lean hard on the crutch of duty when we should be delightedly skipping along.  Then our prayer is that of Psalm 119:35: “Make me to go in the path of Thy commandments; for therein do I delight.”  There is, too, the humble realization that even if we were able to fear God and keep His commandments, as is required of us, we would profit Him not at all.  Luke 17:10: “So likewise ye, when ye shall have done all those things which are commanded you, say, ‘We are unprofitable servants: we have done that which was our duty to do.’”

The second quotation that struck me was this:

We do not wish either to be, or to live among, people who are clean or honest or kind as a matter of duty: we want to be, and associate with, people who like being clean and honest and kind. The mere suspicion that what seemed an act of spontaneous friendliness or generosity was really done as a duty subtly poisons it.
               
How practically this doctrine applies to our lives as women in the church.  Do I submit to my husband because that’s what’s required of me, or because it’s my joy?  Which mother do my children see?  The one who does the laundry, bakes the cookies, or helps with homework because she sees it as her duty, or because it’s her delight?   Which committee member do you prefer?  The one who signs up out of obligation, or the one who serves out of love? 

And so we are compelled to the cross, are we not?  To the feet of the One who said, “I was daily His delight, rejoicing always before Him.”  To the only One Who could say this of and by Himself: “I delight to do Thy will, O My God: yea, Thy law is within My heart” (Ps. 40:8).  To the One Who saved us by His grace.  For it is by grace that we are saved, through faith, and that not of ourselves: it is the gift of God.  “Not of works, lest any man should boast.  For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them” (Eph. 2:8-10).